Cajun makes it clear early in the book that online dating should not be used as a substitute for going out and meeting women in the real world. Instead, it should be used to complement the other areas of your in which you meet women. While there are many dating sites out there, the main one that is used as an example in this book is Plenty Of Fish. It's free to use and is generally regarded as the biggest online dating site in the world.
The same principles discussed in the book still apply for other sites, but you might have to make a few minor adjustments depending on the demographics and functions of other sites. The first thing girls are generally going to look at on your profile are your pictures, so this is covered in depth in the book.
There is a lot of advice on what to do to take the best quality pictures you can, which while it has some important points to consider, is probably overkill for most people. For example, using professional cameras and worrying about light filters and different lenses is going to require a lot of effort for the average person. If you want to go this route, that's fine, but most people will already have at least a few photos Online dating gentlemen will be good enough to use.
Cajun also suggests that you use a variety of different photos that reflect who you are. So it's a good idea to include photos of you doing things you are passionate about, with other people, or doing something that shows your attractive traits.
This is good advice, as it's important to make sure Online dating gentlemen stand out from all the other guys that are messaging women. If you have generic looking photos of you just standing in front of the mirror, there is nothing there to capture her attention on show her who you are.
Instead, try and post photos that give her an insight into your life and let her imagine what it might be Online dating gentlemen if she were dating you. The advice that Cajun gives on this particular aspect of online dating is among the best I have come across.
He's really big on showing how to convey attractive traits without looking like you are trying to brag or impress.
This is something that the Love Systems company has really perfected, and it's a really crucial skill to know how to do. Where a lot of guys go wrong in online dating is trying too hard to display their most attractive characteristics, and ultimately turn women off. This book shows you how to take even the most boring or dorkiest interests you have and talk about them in a way that "Online dating gentlemen" them appear attractive. When you learn how to do this, you'll be able to use it when talking to girls face to face and not simply online.
The other big thing that the book covers in this section is how to include humour in your profile. Cajun gives specific examples from his own dating profile of things he says that make it obvious he is not taking online dating too This is important, as if a woman reads your profile and doesn't laugh at all, she'll likely assume you won't be able to make her laugh in person. So if your profile is boring, in her mind you must be a boring person.
Your chances of getting a date from this point on are practically non-existent. This book does a great job of ensuring you never get into this position. A caveat worth mentioning is that the idea of not taking online dating too seriously, is that it is more of a tactic to use for younger, attractive girls. These girls are normally very social and have a lot of options, so you want to communicate you are the same. If you're interested in women who are older Online dating gentlemen have fewer options, chances are they don't have the same level of confidence as younger women.
They might be on the site because they struggle to meet single guys in real life, and therefore they are taking online dating more seriously and looking for a man who is in the same boat Online dating gentlemen they are.
If your profile is too flippant and nonchalant, you run the risk of scaring them off. So if you're looking more for a serious relationship, you might want to tone down the indifference and cockiness a tad. There are some examples here in the book of what to send for your first message.
The idea is to original and evoke an emotional reaction. Some of the examples are not things I would send myself, because it doesn't fit with my personality. I'd recommend you learn the principles here and why certain messages work to get a response, and then construct your own.
There's also a bonus booklet included with the program that has even more examples of opening messages. There's also examples of how to respond to the messages that you get, especially when women start testing you. One of Cajun's strengths is his cocky and playful attitude, and there are some great examples of it on display here.
You'll see what kind of messages you should be sending to keep things fun Online dating gentlemen interesting Online dating gentlemen headed in the direction of a date. Basically there are two ways in which you would use Facebook for dating.
The first way is you meet girls on dating sites, and then add them to Facebook as a way of making things more personal. The second way is you message girls directly on Facebook that you don't know but would like to talk to.
Cajun says that the second option is a bit of a long shot, but gives you tips on how to Online dating gentlemen to do this anyway. Some of the ideas are quite in-depth and time consuming and personally I wouldn't have the patience to try and do this. But if it's something you're determined to try then the tactics here are quite good. The other ideas discussed here are more general and about how to set up your Facebook page to make you appear as attractive to women as possible.
This includes your photos, your friends, your posts, and the posts others write on your wall. I agree with pretty much everything he includes here, although it's not something I've delved into myself.
I would say the more you are meeting younger women, the more useful this section is going to be. But using Facebook to meet up with women you meet on online dating sites is not a necessity, and you can do just fine without it. He references a Love Systems known as the Love Systems triad. While it's not essential to have a grasp of this to understand the content here, if you are interested in learning more about this, check out our review of their flagship product, Magic Bullets.
The main idea here with phone game Online dating gentlemen to build comfort so that the girl won't feel awkward about meeting up with you. Tenmagnet shares a few examples of things he'll say on the phone to make the girl feel more comfortable, such as a simple story about what he did that day.
It's a good illustration of how you can take something quite mundane and talk about it in a way that makes it more interesting to women. There is also advice on how often you should call a girl, depending on different circumstances. It's also suggested not to try and arrange a meeting on the first call, but the second. Unfortunately, the chapter just ends with saying you should arrange a meeting on the second call, but doesn't give actual advice on the best way to do Online dating gentlemen. This was pretty disappointing that it wasn't covered, as it's an area that a lot of guys can struggle with.