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If you are a dating single mom then you want to avoid these single mom dating problems and mistakes that oh so many single moms make. Dating as a single mom is different than just dating as a single woman. Because you have kids and like it or not you have to take them into consideration when you go forward in your dating life.
You just can date around recklessly and do whatever you want without any thought about the family you have at home.
So I am here to help you from single mom to single Single parenting dating issues for women, and help you avoid these common single mom problems so that you can have a successful dating life. I want all of my single moms to have the most enjoyable and drama free dating life as possible.
I have written about this in my common mistakes that people make on the first date blog which you can read here. Being messy on a date can come in many forms. Being messy can include getting too drunk on a date leading you into taking the man home and having him with you in front of your children when you relive the baby sitter. Being messy can be having a one night stand and forgetting to come home to relive the baby sitter. Being messy can come in so many forms but I am just going to give the common offenders.
As a woman you should always act classy. And if you do not know how to do that then read my blog oh how to act class y.
Do not act and or curse like you have no home training. Ideally you should be more mature since you have children, so make sure you behave like that. But you should not be wearing clothing that shows any parts of your vagina, or any attire that would give anyone reason to believe you are a prostitute.
Remember it is a date and you want to look desirable. Even though you have children, you do not want to show up to the date in a 15 year old pair of mom jeans and a shirt that you have not washed in the past 2 weeks. Really put some effort into your appearance when you go out on a date. Balance attractive, classy, and motherhood. I have written on single mom syndrome blog for all of those who do not know what it is you can click here to read.
Single mom syndrome is when you get so caught up in your Single parenting dating issues for women that you abandon your children to spend more time with your man. You chose to have children and therefore you have a responsibility to them. Where are your kids? Who is picking them up from school? And Single parenting dating issues for women is helping them with their homework?
If you say the babysitter then that is the wrong answer.
Do not let a man make your forget that. It will cause your kids to resent you.
Even when the man is gone, your kids will still be your kids. That also means that when you go out on a date you need to end the date at an appropriate time. It is not good to stay out with your date until 5am and you have to get your children up for school at 6am.
Low key the guy is judging you for being a bad mom even if you are with him. In his head he is thinking her kids her problem, even if he thinks that you abandoning them is wrong. And if he does not understand that what you are doing is inappropriate then he does not understand your priorities, and you should not be with him anyway. I have a blog on when to introduce your man to your children which you can read here.
I know sometimes you can think that just because you are dating someone and your kids want Single parenting dating issues for women meet him that "Single parenting dating issues for women" is time for you to do take the leap. Do not do that, every man that you date does not need to meet your children. You need to be VERY particular about who you bring into your home and be sure that you plan on having him around long term.
Otherwise, your home become a revolving door. Either way you go, when you date it is not the time to MAKE a man be a dad to your child. As time progresses and you get more serious, then sure that is something that may happen.
as soon as you date a man, trying to get your child to call the man dad, or force him to play father figure to your child when he does not want to or he is not ready is not a good idea. It can make the child feel uncomfortable because you are trying to shove this random man down their throat and the man uncomfortable because he feels pressured to fill a role he may not be ready for.
But you have to get there first. As things progress into a relationship you will open up about certain things. But the man you are dating does not need to know what a cold hearted bastard your ex is and you hope that he gets killed in a drive by shooting. That type of talk makes you sound crazy not like a woman he wants to date. I do not care if you are a mother and have had sex before and I do not care if a man is pressuring you to have sex because you have kids.
Click here to read my blog on maintaining celibacy as a single mom. Single parenting dating issues for women the end it is YOUR body, you can do what you want with it, therefore do not feel pressured to have sex with a man. Even if you want to have sex with a man while dating, do not do it.
As a single mom you have to be careful about the perception you put out. Even if you are dating a man for a while, having your man over there while you bump and grind while your children are sleeping is not a good look.