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I have no interest in hookup anymore

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The Dating Nerd is a shadowy figure whose whereabouts and identifying details remain unknown. What we do know is that he is really, really good at dating. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 7 months. Things were great at first — we were so in love, spent all our time together, and the sex, while it wasn't super frequent, was really good.

However in the past month or so things have changed a bit.

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She wants to spend less time with me, doesn't say "I love you as much" as me — it feels like she's pulling away bit by bit. What the hell do I do? Someone gradually losing interest in you is basically the most painful thing that can happen in a relationship. But most pain in relationships is abrupt. You say the one stupid thing that makes her snap. Your heart is broken.

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Then, you go put it back together, find out that love is still possible, and hook up with a hot friend of a friend. Well, first, brace yourself for the possibility that She might just be falling out of love. "I have no interest in hookup anymore" could happen six months in, it could happen six years in. If so, that sucks. So, increasingly, she loves you like ugh an old friend from college — your presence is comforting, but not thrilling.

When was the last time you surprised her with a gift, or took her out to a new restaurant? Are you changing things up in bed at all? Did you read any good books lately that gave you new things to talk about?

Have you been kicking your ass at the gym lately like you should be? It happens all the time.

So you spend all your time being the best person you can be — you send them cute texts, you make love expertly OK, maybeand you actually listen when they talk. So you wear day-old socks that smell like cheese made by Satan.

You craft her Kraft Dinner for dinner. You stop asking her about her day. A few years ago, that was me. If I showed you a picture of her, you would call me a liar, then flip the table, spilling nachos all over me.

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And I had to work for it. She was seeing a few guys when we started hanging out. Our first date was a long night of gallery-hopping, followed by tearing it up at her favorite dance party.

Our second date was absinthe-laden cocktails at the trendiest new restaurant in town. Flash forward six months later, to our 50th date or so: See, we were really compatible, so we got really comfortable with each other, really fast. Too comfortable — we became dull.

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But, unfortunately, we were in the real world, where she worked as the communications manager at a startup, which means she was constantly giving presentations to rooms full of accomplished, well-dressed men. You can fill in the blanks here. Regressing to your average-dude state in a relationship is the most normal thing in the world. She deserves the guy she thought you were — chasing your dreams, busting your ass, and smelling good.

Think you could use some dating help, too? Im 25 so not to old but I have never had a girlfriend relationship wise while I don't know why my interest level is so low to not even talk to girls anymore. . I made an account on adultfriendfinder to see if a hookup site was. Tinder is the hook-up generation's GPS for banging.